Sunday, July 23, 2006

I'm Responsible for my own Joy. Claymate is my rank.

Claymates. I've come to embrace the word. I wasn't a Claymate until recently. I used to think it was a funny play on words that reminded me of Playboy Magazine's Playmates. Although I think that Clay is gorgeous and dead sexy, I didn't objectify him like the Playmate/Claymate association might have indicated. I've watched the jealousy and hatred that was aimed at Clay Aiken over the last few years and wondered why. I've watched them try to diminish me by ridiculing my love for this man. I know the answer to WHY now. It's fear. Fear that Clay is more talented and a better person than they or their own favorite Idol is. Fear that a man who lives a life where he sincerely tries hard to live up to his obligations as a celebrity, and wants to be someone that his kids will look up to, makes the soul-less ones want to tear him down.

The haters use the Claymate term like it's a bad word and I'm tired of it. Mates=friends and I'm definitely a friend of Clay's. I'm going to embrace the term and shout it loud and proud from now on.

I'm Clay's friend, he doesn't owe me anything for my love and support. I'll help him steer through the dirt and mud that is thrown at him. I am the captain of my own happiness and Clay is a part of that for me. We circled the wagons around Clay 6 months ago when we were shocked at how low some hateful people could stoop to smear the reputation of an authentically nice and talented man. We can steer our own course to the happy times that are ahead of us. The Claymates encircle you Clay.


  1. Bravo chexxy...I am right there with you.

    I've never liked the term Claymate but I associate it with strength and loyalty now.

    Heading over to Cafe Press.

    Thanks chexxy.

  2. Great blog Chexxy. Right on point. I use to hate the term Claymate. I thought it was just weird. But people just kept throwing the term at me. Then I saw how the Claymates came to the defense of somebody they thought had been wronged. I also started going to different boards, and they were so nice and welcoming. Proud Claymate here :)

  3. Anonymous11:07 PM

    you aren't fooling anyone.

    you asked the same exact question over at Groucho's blog.

    who do you think you are kidding?

    now you are taking on the persona of a clay fan? yeah right, in what universe.

    you go to haters blogs to get the "truth"? Sure, you're a fan.

    How long have you been around? If it's past 6 months then it would appear you should have your own answer by now.

  4. Anonymous11:09 PM

    wow, they are swarming in like flies now.

    what a joke.

    cheap thrills punks?

  5. Anonymous11:11 PM

    Chexxxy, I don't know how you do it, I would lock this thing so fast it would make those asshats' heads swim.

    You got more moxie than me.

  6. Anonymous11:12 PM

    It's ok, they just make themselves look dumber and dumber all the time. Good for a laugh sometimes :)

  7. Anonymous11:14 PM

    11:05, speak for yourself. I take Clay at his word. Until he tells me differently then I will accept that as his word.

    He does not owe me an explanation at all. He owes me nothing. He doesn't ever have to answer the question for me to support him and believe in him.

  8. Anonymous11:18 PM

    Can we please start ignoring the cretins again?

  9. Anonymous11:21 PM

    See, I don't care IF he turns out to be gay. I don't think he is now, but it wouldn't matter to me. He never claimed to be perfect. Nobody is. I know he has faults. But he tries to be the best person he can be, does good work, is kind to people. That's all he can do.

  10. Anonymous11:24 PM

    I don't need to know what someone does in their private life. We don't know what heterosexuals do or how they do it. I don't care.

  11. Anonymous11:25 PM

    Personally, I don't have the energy to be somebody's psychologist. With everything that's gone on, you can't tell me you don't have your own opinion on anything about this. You have just started NOW to question this?

  12. Anonymous11:25 PM

    I don't believe the people posting now are fans.

  13. Anonymous11:30 PM

    Well, I am not ignorant. I don't like people talking about hypocrites. What about judging?

  14. Anonymous11:31 PM

    Go find your truth somewhere else.

  15. Anonymous11:31 PM

    Ok, here is the truth. Clay has said he is not gay and I believe him.

    Clay is a smart man and would never lower himself to do the things that asshat said he did.

    Clay has integrity and ethics, unlike those who choose to try to destroy him.

    That is my truth. Is it good enough for you?

  16. Anonymous11:32 PM

    It's good enough for me :)

  17. Anonymous11:33 PM

    Good enough for me.

  18. Cut it out Joanne.

  19. Anonymous11:41 PM

    Did I just waste my energy talking to that person and being nice, and she has done this before?

  20. Being nice is never wasted. It shows who you are.

  21. Anonymous11:43 PM

    11:41, yep, sorry. I swear it was word for word from her post at Groucho's.

    Sad, isn't it.

  22. Anonymous11:46 PM

    I just got to the new blog. I have always been Ok with the term Claymate. Guess I missed the scum
    coming in, but you missed the post at 11:36 it also needs to go.

  23. Anonymous11:48 PM

    I posted the truth, what else do you want?

    If you don't like it then figure out your own.


  24. Anonymous11:48 PM

    You Claymates act like a cult if anyone questions anything. It's unbelievable. I am a clay fan and you act so rude to one of your own.

  25. Anonymous11:48 PM

    Well, thank you Chexxy :) I thought I had seen the same posts at Grouchy's, but I thought she was just going from blog to blog looking for 'the truth'. I dunno, call me gullible, I fall for it everytime. These people sure are tricky. I didn't know Chexxy actually knew this person though, and had dealt with her before.

  26. The truth is that Clay is a wonderful and talented singer who is not the person the asshoole that sold a story to the tabloids wants us to believe. He self identifies as a straight man who loves his family and friends and planss to marry a woman he truly loves someday and hopes to have twins.

  27. Anonymous11:49 PM

    Anonymous said...
    Well, thank you Chexxy :) I thought I had seen the same posts at Grouchy's, but I thought she was just going from blog to blog looking for 'the truth'. I dunno, call me gullible, I fall for it everytime.

    I have asked these questions on a few blogs. What is the big deal? I'm looking for the truth.

  28. Anonymous11:49 PM

    11:48 - Yup, now I remember. You went over to Grouchy trying to find 'the truth', and then when we told you to think for yourself, you called us all nasty names. It's no cult. Or at least as far as I know.

  29. Anonymous11:50 PM

    Chexxxy said...
    The truth is that Clay is a wonderful and talented singer who is not the person the asshoole that sold a story to the tabloids wants us to believe. He self identifies as a straight man who loves his family and friends and planss to marry a woman he truly loves someday and hopes to have twins.

    This is 95% the way I feel, honestly Chexxy. I just have 5% doubt and I can't help it. Please stop condemning me for it. I AM a clay fan.

  30. Work on that remaining 5% and you'll have the truth.

  31. Anonymous11:55 PM

    Have a good night everyone. I'll leave you alone since no one believes me or wants to talk, but I hope that someday Clay will say or do something to clear this mess up if it's untrue. I'm hoping that he will answer some set up question in some interview and that will stop it all. I hate those jerks that have done all of this. I do.

  32. Anonymous11:57 PM

    And PS: I do believe that cootie's blog is almost hilarious it's such a stupid joke. They are complete morons. That blog doesn't even bother me.

  33. Anonymous12:00 AM

    "I will judge a man by what I see him do not what others have told me he has done"

    Too often rumours and lies are influenced by other's hate and jealosy. I have seen what clay aiken says, has done, and has tried to do, If it's his public image, it's far more consistant than any celebrity i've seen. Based on that I have no choice to believe him. He would know best who he is. I also dont beleive him to be dishonest. on the contrary, i've seen quite the opposite. Perfect? nope, no one is. Unless he says differently. the truth lies with him.

    Compare that to the flip side, the less than stellar reputation of JP, the countless lies he's been caught in. his opportunistic actions, the haters hypocracy,(haters, that with a little digging i've personally found out thier lies too.) they spend the same amount of time, if not more on hating clay as his fans do supporting him. Odd(and scary), to say the least.

    The choice was quite simple, actions have always spoken louder than words.

    judge a man by what you SEE him do, better yet,don't judge him at all.

    I wasn't one before, but if you'll have me, I'd be proud to call myself a CLAYMATE.

  34. Anonymous12:03 AM

    11:55 - People have tried to talk to you. -I- have tried to talk to you. You just keep saying you want the truth, you want the truth. What more can any of us say? I don't know Clay, unfortunately, so I can't tell you the honest to God's truth. All I can tell you is what I believe in my heart from what I've seen and heard.

  35. Anonymous12:05 AM

    12:00 - The Claymates will welcome you with open arms :)

  36. Anonymous12:10 AM

    Thanks.......Do I get some sort of serial # or an application?

    LOOK AT ME NOW MA......I'm A CLAYMATE!!!!!

    (thanks guys. from Saskatchewan,Canada.)

  37. Hey there, Saskatchewan. We only do the tattoos on Thursdays. You'll get your Claymate number then. :)

  38. Anonymous12:14 AM

    COOL!!!! DO they hurt?


  39. Anonymous12:15 AM

    They hurt, but they're worth it. :)

  40. Anonymous2:14 AM

    I personally don't care. I don't think he owes anybody anything. The haters will never be happy anyway. On the flip side, the true fans will stick by him no matter what.

  41. Anonymous4:29 AM

    Thanks for this blog Chexxy. I love it. Bravo!

  42. Bravo Chexxxy!

    Well said and I support Clay again!

    Bring on the album!

    wombats everywhere

  43. Chexxxy, you have said in this blog what I have always felt in my heart.

    I always shied away from the term "Claymate" like it was a dirty word, but lately I have come to embrace the term and I feel that I can honestly say that I am proud if someone refers to me as such.

    Being a fan of several artists, I have never felt the connection to other fans that I do with this fandom and so I will gladly be labeled a Claymate. I only see it as a good thing.

  44. orionne11:04 AM

    11:07, there IS no truth on the hater's blogs - just jealousy and screwed-up personalities.

    Clay know himself better than anyone else. I will take his word over that of some loser with an agenda any day.

  45. Anonymous11:04 AM

    11:07, there IS no truth on the hater's blogs - just jealousy and screwed-up personalities.

    Clay know himself better than anyone else. I will take his word over that of some loser with an agenda any day.

  46. Anonymous11:45 AM

    I really do hope that Clay will finally show those haters and someday just put everything to rest once and for all.
    He should stop avoiding reporters though. If he would just do an open interview and answer all questions it would stop alot of the turmoil and be a big middle finger to the haters.

  47. Clay has stated his truth on several occasions. For those who choose not to believe him it won't matter how many more times he says it.

    My truth is that I choose to believe him. I have never once heard or seen him give me a reason not to believe him.

    Over the past three years I've seen the most innocent statements and/or actions twisted into something evil. There is no way I will ever give the people who do that any credence. Ever!!!

  48. Sorry Anon at 11:45; I don't think Clay is avoiding anyone. This just isn't a priority in his life and he's given the vast majority of slime the middle finger by not saying anything.

  49. Anonymous7:00 PM

    Clay is straight and some people are hung up on his sexuality. Think what they'd be like if he were gay.

    He knows that he isn't gay. His girlfriend SURELY knows that he isn't gay.;)

    Kelly Clarkson KNOWS that he isn't gay. I wonder how she knows? ;
    I'll never tell.;D
    She may tell it one day though.
    After all, she did ride the bus with him night after night after night. She was swooning over him when they were on stage together.

  50. Anonymous7:48 PM

    CLAY + MATE =


  51. Excellent blog - again - Chexxxy.

    While Kelly does know Clay isn't gay; even said so in a query in a radio interview, I do wonder about her song "Don't". The words are
    simple, a plea to not say "You Love Me" if you don't.

    There are (LOL) A Thousand Different Ways to say I love you; perhaps Kelly was hearing what one is want to do when infatuated; hence, she
    wrote the song "Don't" while they
    shared the bus for 4 long months.

    It is amusing that some people don't take into consideration that Clay would have had to sneak off the bus, climb over Jerome (a mountain if there ever was one), jump on the bus (for it was traveling at a healthy clip to the next venue); get a hotel room, hook up internet, make a connection, meet said connection, etc, etc, you know where it's going. Then put it in reverse.

    Is it more difficult of jump OFF a speeding bus or jump ON one I wonder? Hummmmmmmmm.

  52. My nickname for 6'8" Jerome is Mount Sequoia.

    He is a very nice dude but BIG!

  53. Anonymous8:57 PM

    The one thing I don't get is how
    CA was suppossed to do all this
    stuff, when? I'm asshamed of myself
    because I read the PH site. The things said are just...well hateful
    They write like they are telling the truth, how do those people come
    up with that stuff. Clay has nothing to explain because the more they spew the more insane it becomes. Those other blogs I have never ever visited, I'm way to scared. OH 100% Claymate here.

  54. Anonymous9:37 PM

    Someone posted Clay's whole new blog on PH.

  55. Anonymous9:56 PM

    Yup, 9:37 - They have posted it at Tinny's blog and Cooties also. Nothing new. They started doing it when he who's name shall not be mentioned's blog was up.

  56. Anonymous10:05 PM

    "They write like they are telling the truth, how do those people come
    up with that stuff."

    You have to remember that these people do this as a lifestyle. They are liars so it is easy for them to do.
    It isn't true and they know it.
    They just don't want YOU to know it.
    They are depending on you to fall for it.
    Don't let youself be fooled.
    Clay Aiken is who he says he is. Always has been.
    It infuriates the ones who have their hate blogs that we Clay fans know this(that Clay is who he says he is) and don't fall for their insanity.
    They keep trying new ways to make us believe them.
    Thing is, we are smarter than they are so they have a tough row to hoe if they think they ever will convince us.
    Think about it, they have a motive. Why else would they spend their days posting their hatred of Clay fans?

  57. Anonymous10:20 PM

    Is there any other performer, that has to put up with what Clay does?
    I mean really.. what has he done to these people, what what what

  58. Anonymous10:25 PM

    No one has to do anything to these people to make them like they are. They are losers who have no lives and hate to see success in others.

  59. Proud Claymate10:30 PM

    Excellent blog, Chexxxy!! Another former "Claymate" (the word) hater; now after all the bashing by the those foul-mouthed cretins, I've decided to be "out and proud" about being one. And to me it means the same as you described, a friend of Clay.

    I love the dude (tm Ruben: "they loooove that dude, man!" and am here to support him for the duration!!

  60. Anonymous10:55 PM

    7:00 - Oh, what I wouldn't give to have been Kelly Clarkson on that bus :)

  61. Anonymous12:26 AM

    I'm proud to say that I am a Claymate!

    I so would love to hear the stories Kelly could tell about her months on that bus with Clay. What a lucky girl!

  62. Anonymous12:22 PM

    OMG, can you feel it? There's something big and joyous coming in the next few days! The long wait is about to be over. Soon means just that: SOON!! The anticipation has been building and now it is about to burst forth like a new flower's bloom in the sunshine of spring. Rejoice! Rejoice! And again I say rejoice! For our reedemer is at hand.

  63. Claylon2:16 PM

    Thanks Chexxy... I am with you all the way.

    I truly believe, we are so influenced by the media`s lies and how they push perceptions on us all that we cannot see something different.
    Clay does not confuse a foolish physical desire with love, whether he is gay or straight. I believe he is straight, but nobody can know except him. The point is he is NOT going to treat sex like a commodity, you just buy when you need it. He has a very mature way of looking at things. Just MHO, how can anyone be sure, but one thing I am sure of is he is a very special person, and he would not conduct any relation ship like that.
    He is not going to behave like most of the pop stars and so called celebs out there ever. Again I am not 100% sure of anything as he is human. But whatever he decides I am one of those unconditional fans. Always and Forever

  64. Excellent blog chexxy! I was right there with you... with every word!

    I seriously don't care anymore what people call me.. though all they usually call me is committed.

    I'm not sure what they mean by that.. but I guess I am... and so it's all good.